prime gods

Ooops. I guess the title was a little too dramatic. But hey, the story is dramatic anyway…

It was four years ago when my best friend Hailey started going out with Dick (yep, real name, no pun intended). Dick was Hailey’s first boyfriend. They dated exclusively ever since. They loved each other so much however years after, they seem to do the same old routine over and over. I remember one time when Hailey and I had a talk. She wanted to break out of the boring relationship. She loved her but she misses herself. From her own words she said “I want to be with myself again”.

As a good friend I did not give her options. Instead, I let her list what she thinks would happen if she choose either to break up or not. And so she decided to go for freedom. Months later I asked her about her relationship with Dick. She said she wanted to break up but could not do it. She just do not want to hurt Dick’s feelings.

Yesterday, I received a call from her. She was crying. I asked why and she said that Dick proposed. The shocking part is she said “yes”. It was not even tears of joy. She was crying because she could not say no. Dick proposed on her grandmothers 70th birthday. Everyone in Dick’s family was there. She said when Dick knelt down and showed an engagement ring and an expensive pair of Black diamond earrings she just could not say no.

This time, I felt responsible for what happened. I must tell her to back out. But how?

My friend Twyla picked up a package from her special someone at the Customs which she knew contained jewelry. The box had to be opened there for checkup, so she almost fainted when she saw that the jewelry her special someone gave her was an engagement ring! ^_^

Turns out the reason why she had to pick up the parcel all the way at Customs was because the ring has certified diamonds. That also meant she had to pay Custom’s a lot for the tax. It’s a good thing she was able to play up a drama and pretended the jewelry was for her mom who was deceased – her wearing an all black attire helped her play that part. 0;) It worked and she only paid very minimal tax.

Twyla’s actually a type of person who doesn’t like following the norms and had already told her special someone that she doesn’t like proposals. Then again, receiving a proposal in the middle of packages and in a very unconventional manner last month made it acceptable for her. She’s been wearing the gorgeous ring since.

I read somewhere that ‘attraction is not a choice’. As human beings that descended from cavemen and apes, we are all genetically hard-wired to respond in certain way to very basic characteristics in others. Attraction all comes down to S&R value – survival and replication – survival being your quality of life and replication being your chances of reproduction.

Females will typically be attracted to males with a high S value. If he has the athleticism to Karate-chop anyone that dares to harm you and the brains to make money to buy you a nice home, he will be good for your S needs – regardless of whether or not he doesn’t use enough acne solutions. Males, on the other hand, will instinctively be attracted to a woman with high R value. R represents his chances of reproducing his genes. If she’s got a healthy body, she’ll do – a lot of times regardless of whether or not she’s as dumb as a plank.

Is this all we need to know when it comes to developing a happy and healthy relationship with someone you’re attracted to? Absolutely not. A lot of times we are swayed by people who do not meet the S&R mandate, and we do things for them that are plainly in direct contradiction to our survival and replication chances. As Oscar Wilde once said, the mystery of love is greater than the mystery of death.

There are a lot of things that people will typically say in an effort to comfort someone who had just gotten out of a bad break-up. Your friends will say things like: “you’re better off without her”, “she was no good for you anyway”, “there’s plenty of fish in the sea”, “you’ll find someone better”, and then perhaps the most overused, “you deserve better”. They all seem like reasonable enough sentiments – but even after they’ve been said, the pain is still there. You spend time listening to your old songs, looking at pictures you had together, and sighing out the car window as you pass some place you shared intimate moments together. This is what I call the asbestos mesothelioma symptom.

Just like those songs, pictures, and places, if you spend enough time around asbestos, you’ll contract mesothelioma – it has to stop. From personal experience, I’ve learned the only way to make the pain go away will take two things: firstly, you’re going to have to actually believe in all of the comforting statements listed above. Rediscover your self-worth and develop the confidence to truly believe you deserve better. The second step, which cannot be accomplished without the confidence gained from the first step, is to go out and find “better”. Sound tough? That’s because it is. It will take time, patience, strength, and a little bit of luck.

I recently enrolled in a fast weight loss program. One of those that you see on an infomercial and would otherwise have completely ignored – but, due to my sorry and insecure state, I enrolled out of desperation. The reason for potentially fantastic waste of money is that I recently asked a good friend of mine to hook me up with her brother – who is quite a stud. He asked for a picture and she ended up showing him my profile on Facebook. When asked what he thought he said, and I quote, “I’m not into volutpuous women”.

Voluptuous? Now I’ve been called a lot of things before – “cute” being the most common description – but voluptuous? To me that’s just another word for “fat”. I enrolled in that fast weight loss program immediately. The next time he sees me he’s going to regret not choosing to call me. He’ll probably be married and have a beer belly and 3 kids by then, but I guarantee that compared to me, his wife will be more than a little “voluptuous”.

There are many instances in our lives where we share an intimate moment with someone else. Have you ever been so close to someone’s face that you could make out almost every little pore on it? Making you suddenly wary that he/she could pick out every little flaw on your face and that you should maybe have thought twice before deciding not to wear your best face cream that morning?

As human beings we naturally long for such intimate moments in which we are left vulnerable. But when you think about it, there is nothing that the best face cream can do you to mask who you really are. The best face cream and all the cosmetic accessories in the world can only get you so far. Getting someone to find you attractive is one thing – and it may happen to you very often – but actually making a deep emotional connection with someone is something that is far more rewarding, and much more rare. It’s really something to live for but requires that you be confident in who you are.

After more than two years, I finally saw JC again this December 27. We had dinner at a cozy Italian restaurant near his place, and I finally got to meet (and interview) his fianc�e Hiroko.

I had a fascinating time talking with them, or rather, trying my still-inadequate Nihongo skills with Hiroko. We got to the topic of their wedding details of course, and since they�re going back to Japan on January 2, JC asked me to get our Kendo friends� addresses and email them to him for the wedding invitations. Since he knows that I�m not that fond of some of the Kendo people, he gave me the freedom to just get the addresses of the Kendo people I wanted to invite. ^_^ Isn�t it sweet?

Although JC generally had to translate most of the conversation for us during dinner, I got the impression that she�s really nice and is perfect for JC as I had imagined when JC used to talk to me about her before they even became a couple. I�m happy for both of them. ^^; I did vow afterwards that I should be able to speak coherent Nihongo before their wedding in July.

My friend JC will be getting married July 11 next year. I�m currently helping him with the wedding preparations since he and his fianc�e are currently in Japan and will be just visiting this December to finalize their wedding here. Their next return after December will be for the wedding week on July.

I had always thought that weddings are nice, but they�re way too much of a hassle in preparation, especially if you have a big wedding like JC�s (his expected guests are around 150). The tiniest details can set you off. Which is why, I definitely vie for civil or intimate weddings. It�s more special, less stressful, more practical, and definitely more romantic and solemn since the attendees are just a selected few � the closest to your heart.

Anyhow, I�m still thinking on whether to get them the conventional dinnerware, microwaves, and the likes, or go for the more exciting stuff like body stockings and edible underwear to make their honeymoon more special. 0;) Hmmmm� what do you think?

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My cousin Abi was sobbing to death when I called her up last Monday. She taught her boyfriend, Chad, was cheating on her. I�m not so sure how she found out but it�s like her boyfriend was sleeping when she just thought of checking his cell phone.

Unfortunately, there was this girl she was really curious of so she asked him if he is seeing the girl. As a defense mechanism of many, Chad got annoyed and threw his phone on the wall and left her place. Abi wrote him a �break-up letter� and was decided to break up with him the next day.

The next day came, Abi received a message from Chad to accompany him at the mall, and so confusion started whether or not she�ll pursue with the break-up or not because of the sudden invitation of Chad. At the mall, Chad grabbed Abi to a store nearby and guided her to the diamond rings section. To her astonishment, he gave her a ring and explained to her that the girl on the phone was one of the sales ladies he has been contacting for follow-up of the availability of his made-to-order ring for Abi.

Speaking of not prying into other�s personal stuffs� 0:p